Paul Wilson: The Quest for Meaning in Your Career Afterlife

bush_putin_paintingI’m gonna to deliver the punch line, the money quote, right up front…

Why? Because in an effort to save time for Harley so he can get right to his negative spin and not have to read the whole story, big words and all. It’s a beautiful day and I want to start things off right for our short bus brother by serving one up high with plenty of hang time so he can effortlessly spike his comment ball of illiteracy back over the net of mediocrity.

This July, I turn the Big Six Zero.

That’s right, sports fans. Your well-coiffed scribe is aging, but – I’d like to think – doing so with style and grace.

Maybe not Craig’s version of grace and style, but grace and style nonetheless.

I never gave much thought to turning 40 or even 50. So maybe this is tied to the loss of my mom in October. So I’m giving 60 some serious contemplation. And I suspect some of you are in a similar boat.

We all know more than a few examples of people who, metaphorically, died at their retirement party or shortly after. They worked a lifetime to reach their so-called years of relaxation then flamed out shortly after.

rockI’ve mentioned my grandfather here before, an executive with Coke who retired and moved to his home on Grand Lake. I begged him to not go there to die because he was too important in my life. He had a full, active professional and personal life and my biggest fear was him settling into fishing, hanging out at the marina and passing away before his time.

Because he well could have had he not kept something very important in his life; the Japanese call it, “ikigai” – that which gives life a sense of purpose.

His vacation home became his permanent home, leaving his Plaza condo in the rearview mirror. But he immediately became involved on a bank board, in civic organizations and his church, telling me frequently, “I don’t know how I ever had time to work, I’m too busy being retired.”

My plan was to retire earlier.

However I was awakened by a study Shell Oil conducted on their employees which found those who retire at 55 are 89% more likely to die in the 10 years after retirement than those who retire at 65.

tammy_wynette-divorce_sThat study almost made me thankful for my Great Divorce of 2000 which made it far more difficult to carry out my early retirement plan. I might be dead now but for that.

The study went on to find that people working until the age of 65 were 89% more likely to live 10 more years after retirement even though they were 10 years older than their early retirement counterparts.

So what are we to conclude?

The only difference between the two groups was their age at retirement.

I think it’s all about “purpose” and “self-worth.”

Too many of us males find 90% of our identity in what we do – our jobs. For Craig, it’s more about who he does maybe, but for many of us, it’s our job. When we retire, that sense of identity, that sense of purpose is gone. And the let down often manifests itself in the same manner we see when one loses a spouse.

Our spirit surrenders and we die.

Is work your purpose in life? If so, I’d encourage you to find a more meaningful one. In today’s world, jobs are a fickle mistress that can change in an instant. If it’s the only place you find value you could wake up overnight feeling pretty vacant.

For me, I spend an increasing amount of time preparing for that time.

Writing has become one of those new found friends that I intend to take up a good deal more after my retirement. With two books on the drawing board and an increasing number of small town newspapers running my essays, writing and volunteering is going to my “purpose” but still not the source of my self-worth.

bush3-1I guess that’s what I found news worthy this past weekend when President George Bush held his first art show with portraits of world leaders. GW has never been the typical prez, his time off was spent in Crawford Texas chopping wood and cutting grass.

Stop and think, after you’ve been President, what’s left?

Seeking a new passion is what caused Bonnie Flood’s phone to ring. Flood is a Florida artist and teacher who got a surprise phone call from the POTUS saying he wanted art lessons for both himself and his sister-in-law, Maggie.

Was this passing fancy?

No, Bush tackled it like chopping wood, taking lessons for up to 6 hours a day for a month straight.

He then graduated from his first 50 paintings of dogs and landscapes to his opening this past weekend for “The Art of Leadership: A President’s Personal Diplomacy” at the George Bush Presidential Library and Museum on the campus of Southern Methodist University. Bush’s first public showing of his newfound talent involves 30 oil-on-board paintings of world leaders. Are they masterpieces of portraiture? Hell no. Still they’re a good and decent effort for a true outsider ingenue with no prior training.

We live in an investment driven world, it’s the only retirement advice we get; the importance of saving enough money for a comfortable and secure retirement.

But it seems if the self-worth component isn’t in place, we’ll do nothing but die with our millions, soon to be inherited by our kids.

What’s the point?

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63 Responses to Paul Wilson: The Quest for Meaning in Your Career Afterlife

  1. mike t. says:

    i had a comment. too personal to share. let others chime in and perhaps i can segue my thoughts into replies. 60 isn’t so bad, paul. it’s 62 that hits home.

  2. Guy Who Says What Others Think says:

    Retirement…not sure I’ll ever see it. I’m saving for it, but not killing myself doing it. I’m currently watching my father drain every last dime of he and my mother’s savings that they spent 50 years together accumulating to pay for her stay in a nursing home with Alzheimer’s. A man who spent his life living a fiscal responsible lifestyle and raising a family of three boys, is now going to die dead broke because he didn’t do what he needed to when he knew darn good and well his wife had Alzheimer’s. And by that, I mean protect his assets. He refused to listen to his three sons who warned him for 7 years straight on what he needed to do. He even cancelled free financial planning advice from the president of a bank that my brother knew. He was so stuck in the 1960’s that he didn’t want anyone else knowing his financial business. But I digress. I’m not planning on retiring…ever.

    • paulwilsonkc says:

      Guy, I have a close friend of mine, kind of a surrogate father of sorts. Did it ALL the right way; retired from the military, retired from a local KC firm, saved .90 of every dollar he earned.
      His wife developed early dementia and at one point had to place her in a care facility. He told me in a tear stained conversation that if she lived 6 more months… he would be broke, but through a smile said, he could not have spent the money in any better fashion.
      It’s a shame what end of life care has come to be. I know we can’t go back to the multi-generational home and in the cases like yours and my friend; no family is equipped to handle that.
      I watched my grandfather drain all of his savings as well, taking my grandmother through her final years. It’s just sad all the way around, especially when the person being cared from can’t even remember who you are….

      • LeeAnn Luebber says:

        This exact situation is so frequent! I see it a lot working in Healthcare. Working mostly with delightful elderly people who have worked hard and saved for retirement all to find it goes to fund old age /healthcare. When ultimatlely they all end up “spending down”, letting Medicare /Medicaid pay for their NH stay and their devoted spouse may be left without a nest egg. Probably makes them wish they had spent the nest egg earlier on a BMW or MERCEDES and taken more frequent trips to BIG CEDAR LODGE 🙂
        I am currently reading a book recommended in AARP 🙂 titled ‘Knocking at Heavens Door’ a daughters tale of her parents experience trying to treat her fathers ailments as he ages and evaluating how much of that time he really enjoyed a quality life. His devoted wife ragged and poor when all said and done……..so ……..hop in your sports car and head for the lake….NOW!!!!!

        • hot harley says:

          yeah sure right paully wislon.
          who’se taking those article….mayberry times? maybe the Nevada Missouri
          news.
          these “articles” have the intelligence of a sophomore finance student
          at ku!
          nothing really said… nothing but a bunch of bull. And it looks like the
          headline was changed….can’t do that after printing the paper dude.
          hearne won[t let meput the real truth about your so called writing
          (or should i say failed epic attempt to write)…because 16 year olds
          write better.
          Pretending to be something you’re not is very hard to maintain. Stop try9ing to be someone you have
          never been and never will be.
          It’s easier than putting up a huge façade and having to
          write about phony stories and phony life!
          go the glaze way..

  3. Stomper says:

    Great topic Paul. I think the majority of the commenters here are old guys around the same age so retirement is a subject we all have most likely considered. You attacked the subject from the angle of ” purpose of life” and that is certainly a valid primary perspective. However, those of us that don’t have “millions” ( and is “millions” truly enough ??) approach this from the angle of whether we can actually afford to stop working and maintain any semblance of our current lifestyle. The unknown cost of health care for our remaining years is at the top of the list of concerns. If my wife and I go out quickly as the result of an accident or heart attack then we’re probably ok. If, however, we linger through a long, slow, steady descent into Alzheimers’s or stroke related symptoms that drain any and all assets we might have, then, no way. Also whether we want to leave anything to our kids is somewhere on the list of concerns.

    Didn’t mean to highjack your point of ” sense of purpose” in retirement. It is an important consideration that anyone approaching and/or considering retirement should ponder. Personally, I have the ” self worth component” covered as I already spend a lot of time volunteering and have some additional goals lined up. It’s the unknown of what my and my bride’s health care costs that cause me hesitation on when to pull the trigger.

    And. Mike T. , I share your thought that 60 wasn’t so bad, but the concern reared it’s ugly head a year or two after that milestone.

    • hot harley says:

      come to my website…i hve the cure for what ails you….Harley
      is on ttrack….
      and sure…we’re all worried how we’ll live with the dollars we have.
      but it sure beats the alternative…a box 6 feet under!!!!!

    • paulwilsonkc says:

      Stomper, you didnt hijack anything, appreciate the comment as usual. Yeah, this strikes a nerve and no, I’m not going to be retiring any time soon. The year 2000 cost me about $500K, all said and done, altering my plans maybe a tad.
      I’ve mentioned here before, I’m in the process of looking at a syndication agreement for small market papers where some of my pieces resonate. Thats a pretty decent little retirement income, if done right, and I totally love doing it. So my retirement will really mean I change functions and will then work, for money, doing what I love and spending more time giving of my time in areas that need it.
      And health care; our boy Obama doesn’t have the answer to that one…. not yet anyway.

      • Stomper says:

        Your tale of the year 2000 reminds me of the guy who asked his wife what she wanted for Christmas and she replied, “a divorce”. His response was ” I wasn’t planning on spending that much”.

        Your ability to work for money doing something you really love puts you in a pretty elite group. Maybe not one in a million but pretty close. You’re a lucky guy.

        I love that you’re calling Obama, “our” guy. Welcome to the dark side. I meant to respond to your transitional efforts when you mentioned it in your reply to me on the MLK piece. As my Aussie family would say, ” Good on ya’ “

        • paulwilsonkc says:

          Well, if you listen to Short Bus HarlisMaximus and his assessment of what I do, you can only “sell boxes” for so long. What an a$$. He doesnt want the truth, he CANT HANDLE THE TRUTH!

          • hot harley says:

            selling boxes can be very profitable wislon…
            my cousin made a ton of money selling
            boxes to department stores/retailers/
            gift stores/jewelry stores…
            so there is hope for you in the future!!!hahahaha

          • paulwilsonkc says:

            Oh, Harley, you’re so cute when you try to be all relevant and relational. If you only knew what I did.
            Every time you comment, God kills a puppy.
            Thanks for being my biggest fan, reader and dis3iple. It just makes my day.

      • mike t. says:

        my dad kinda did that too, paul. went back to writing for a small town weekly, harkening back to his early days as a reporter.

        • paulwilsonkc says:

          Yeah, I’ve turned down a full time gig doing that, not ready to make that move. If it goes my way, I’ll stay freelance and make it on my own.
          Your goals change over the years, mine sure have. Im looking forward to doing things that make a positive impact on several areas, not just income producing. Thats pretty hollow.

      • hot harley says:

        hey wislon….got an email from chuckles…wants to meet your
        ex wife with all the money!
        because the rule is “you can marry more in 5 minutes than
        you can make in 50 years!”
        send all pertinent information to nazilover1942@aol.com.
        hahahahaha

  4. mike t. says:

    both sad stories, guy, paul. for me, retirement is just a dream. too many poor decisions made along the way, many without thinking about the future, and some unlucky breaks as well. can’t afford to retire, can’t afford any major illness either. in my case, better to burn out than fade away.

    but more power to folks who can afford their passions after their “work” life ends.

    • hot harley says:

      mike…its all attitude. get back out in the world…its a beautiful world..
      whether you’re volunteering with young kids…or working a soup
      kitchen…life is what we make it.
      unlucky breaks…we’ve all had them….bad decisions…we’ve all had them…
      but there’s nothing more beutiuful than doing something positive…
      we need to talk….i also do motivational speaking…i call it HAPPY..
      and recently some jerk with a smokey the bear hat stole my
      name!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
      its all good….it can be fulfilling….the pastis gone….god is watching
      and I’m willing to bet hehas a plan for you….you’ve just got to find it!!!!!!

      • mike t. says:

        in all seriousness Harley, I appreciate your sentiments. And I don’t disagree completely. There are a lot of things that provide satisfaction in life, before, during and after a career. And, true, there are always opportunities to be discovered, perhaps savored even.

        In my case, I won’t say ‘never’, but from my viewpoint, the topic hand – retirement – is but a myth. Man cannot live on rapture alone.

    • paulwilsonkc says:

      Mike, this was so sad, I went to the bathroom and harlinated, just so I’d feel better. (you see what I did there?)

  5. hot harley says:

    thanks for all the ink wislon….nice article ……but you’re not getting off easy
    here.
    I AM NOT GOING TO RETIRE. FOR WHAT? TO GO TO HY VEE AND
    MCDONALDS AND SEE THE RETIREES…SITTING…TALKING…BORED…
    GROWING OLD AND FALLING APART.
    AIN’T GONNA HAPPEN HERE.
    I WORK OUT 2 HOURS 4 TIMES A WEEK AT LIFETIME FITNESS. I AM IN
    BETTER SHAPE THAN GLAZE!!!!! MAYBE HE CAN LIFT MORE BUT
    HE COULD NOT KEEP UP WITH ME IN EITHER THE INTERVAL
    CLASS OR THE KICKBOXING LESSONS I TAKE.
    HE MAY HAVE A LARGE SET OF BICEPS BUT GLAZE…THATS NOT HOW
    YOU WORK OUT IN TODAY’S WORLD.

    from those who love what they do…who have passion for the chase..
    I’m a serial entrerenuer…had 6 businesses….all successful….one I’ve
    got now is breaking even but thats because I’m not running it!
    Theres nothing more fun than building something. It may take
    its toll on my atttitude…but with the internet/technology/and all
    the new products and businesses being created….its an exciting
    world out there that I would never want to leave.
    People ask me when I will retire…I tell them “when they carry me out
    in the pine box with no metal)” Jewish people get buried in pine wood
    boxes..no nails or metal….that’s how I’m going.
    Or maybe it will be hitting the big roll at the craps table ….and then
    I keel over…knowing in the end I beat the house!!!!!!
    Retirement sucks….but or those who lived pretty mundane lives without
    the passion that some of us get from just waking up…nothing beats
    the “chase” ……
    i invite any and all to go to my email and i’ll give you a routine to
    change your life.
    and besides…if i retire and die …who will be left to give wilson and
    hearne and glaze hell on a daily basis for their writings? This blog
    would go down quickly without me. Who’d take on glaze and his
    know nothing attitude toward sports…or hearne’s constant stubble
    to be a journalist…or even wilson’s attempt to be another Hemmingway?
    whatever the case…you’re stuck with me boys. the voice of reason
    and being right on….
    I’ve got a good 40 years left..hopefully by then my spelling and
    grammar will have improved…love to all…
    Harley.

    • paulwilsonkc says:

      Harlis, you skipped a major fact; I wasnt talking to OR writing about you. But thanks for playing along, we need some irrelevant comments to bring the overall quality down….

    • the dude says:

      ‘serial entrerenuer’

      Yes harlinator, I am more than sure you are whatever that is.

  6. the dude says:

    Holy shit Paul, if you say Bushy took to paintin’ like he did choppin’ wood he took it pretty damn seriously then. I think choppin’ wood was about the only thing the man ever did successfully in his life. Well, that and paintin’ those interesting pictures.

    • the dude says:

      Oh, and my retirement plans are to croak on the job at 5pm on a Friday- so I can get the full day’s pay. 😉

      • mike t. says:

        lol… good one dude. kinda my plan as well. but… I’m getting those vacation days in first.

        • hot harley says:

          while our parents retired…they did not enjoy the lifestyles that
          those in their 40’s/50’s have enjoyed.
          its harder to scale back to a smaller income but it can be
          done.
          ih ave a friend who moved to mexico for 8 months and lives in kc
          for 4. rents an apartment with his wife for 4 months in kc…
          gets $400 a month rent in mexico. they work 3-4 days aweek
          in a factory with computers since the company could not find
          anyone to do that type of work.
          they love it!!!!! beautiful place inmexico (mayan Riviera Puerto morels)
          and they can livegteat on their 4000 from social security plus
          and extra 3000 they get working.
          be creative.
          by the time many of us are retired the will be a huge labor shortage
          and companies will pay way too much for people with the skills
          we have…its coming soon….because there will be so many
          who retired and those who still love to work and be active will
          have the experience that no one else doesto fill those jobs….
          smile…its av beuatiufil world….and we will all be okay.
          luv you all…and remember “its all about aytitutde”
          your friend and counselor
          Harley!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

        • the dude says:

          Oh yes, the vacay days shall be fully used along with **cough** sick days.

  7. Jim says:

    At age 42, I had worked for my company for 25 years and had $500K in our ESOP plan. Thought an actual retirement was well within reach. Long story short, company went belly up and $500K turned into $0 overnight. 10 years later, I still sit in the same seat I always did as we reincorporated back into an independent company with the same employees. So, I got to start over my retirement plan at 42 years old. Still not totally out of the question to have an actually retirement, but I need to get used to alot more Ramen noodle dinners. No complaints. Life goes on. Just have to roll with the punches.

    • the dude says:

      Ouch! That would hurt.

      • Jim says:

        Dude, stung a lot at the time, yes. But, I’ve always considered myself a really lucky dude. I found a profession that I love. I’ve had the good fortune to work at the same place for 35+ years. Put two kids through college and supported my family all these years. I get up every morning and go to a job I really, really like doing. The people I have worked with for all these years are my extended family and have watched each other’s kids grow up.

        How can I not be thankful for that opportunity? Money is one thing. Happiness trumps it every time.

        • Stomper says:

          +1.
          Great attitude, Jim. You are, indeed, a lucky dude. Well stated !! Luck, as they say, is the meeting of preparation and opportunity.

          • paulwilsonkc says:

            Ditto what Stomper said, Jim. Its all part of the circle, I’ve been there as well. If you let your attitude fail it stacks the rest of the world against you. I spent about 3 wasted years over a decade ago, learning that. Nothing is gained by licking your wounds, other than a sore tongue.
            And what a blessing to love what you do. There have been years I “had a job” and years that I could not wait to get up and go to work! Luckily, its been a good and decent mix of the two.

        • hot harley says:

          good thoughts jim…..love your attitude….

  8. hot harley says:

    i would rather sell everything i own..live in a $400 a month apartment…
    then work doing something i hated.
    god has my plan…I’m lving it right now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    but i still go a lot more to do before I’m done….
    ya ain’t seen nothing yet from Harley….the show is at intermission…the
    second half is gonna one mutha f***er!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  9. NorthlandGal says:

    “spike his Comment ball of illiteracy back over the net of mediocrity” … LOVE IT.

    I’m sure the rest was good too, but I got all mezmerized by the beauty of your well turned denunciation of Harley that I actually ‘pulled a Harley’ and forgot to read the rest of your article. Something about you being old? Not sure, but that first paragraph was a winner.

    • paulwilsonkc says:

      NorthlandGal; I LOVE you!

    • Libertarian says:

      I 2nd that.

      That Wilson spin is always good for a grin!

      • paulwilsonkc says:

        Well, thank you, Lib. This must be my day. You’re gettin all complimentary on me, I made some NorthlandGal smile (I can’t take credit, it was more about Harley’s illiteracy) and this Veronica chic wants to hook up with the old dude. And its only Wednesday.
        What comes Friday?

  10. Veronica Hornsby says:

    Mr. Wilson,
    You didn’t mention sharing your retirement with anyone… Is it possible you are free of The Blonde at last? If so, I’ll play secretary for you… Typing, taking notes, and I’m a fabulous editor!

    Personally, I never want to retire. I plan to retread, revise, revolt, reveal and reinvest time in all of my skills, recreating myself over and over. I am officially propositioning you… If you want some company on your retirement path, I could see myself making great memorable moments and creating a lot of exciting, exceptional events with your ornery, feisty self. Just sayin’…
    Pick one: [ yes ] or [ no ]
    P.S. I thought that last part was pretty cute and junior high-like! See, I could keep you young, too, with my own cute version of feisty!

    • paulwilsonkc says:

      You propose some interesting thoughts. I’d be glad to meet for coffee and discus them. I’m pretty easily found. Step up to the plate and take a swing.

      • admin says:

        Do I need to rub my eyes a few more times or did I just witness Mr. Well Coiffed schedule a hookup?

        • paulwilsonkc says:

          I have no idea what you are talking about, Admin. In Harely-speak, you saw nothing, you have no proof and Paul is always right, all the time, 100% of the time always. What you just said is a vicious lie. Come with proof and facts next time. Until then, I’m always right. You have nothing more here than some suspected jewel thief story. Go write something about Jardines, if there’s a hook up, you’ll hear it from me first. But for now, you got nothun.

      • hot harley says:

        but veronica….make sure he takes his Viagra first! hahahaha

  11. Libertarian says:

    You work hard, you build a house big enough for you and your family, and then lo and behold-your kids grow up and split, then your wife dies or leaves you, and there you sit. All alone in huge empty space that once housed the souls of your loved ones.

    Thats just one scenario I witnessed years ago.

    An elderly fellow that was in a golf gang with some friends of mine passed away several years ago. We were all visiting him days before he expired, and I asked him if he had any regrets. He grinned at me and said, “I wish I would have f_ _ked more.”

    A lot of folks that retired from GM back in the 70’s and 80’s died or committed suicide within 10 years of retiring, this according to retired GMer that worked as a route driver with me at a paint store. He claimed the only reason he had made it so far beyond “retirement” was because he kept working. He does look and act a lot less than his 77 years, so there is something to be said for that.

    As for me, once I feel secure enough at my level in life, I’m going to do whatever the hell I want.

    I suggest you all do the same.

    • hot harley says:

      wislon says:
      “Too many of us males find 90% of our identity in what we do – our jobs. For Craig, it’s more about who he does maybe, but for many of us, it’s our job. When we retire, that sense of identity, that sense of purpose is gone. And the let down often manifests itself in the same manner we see when one loses a spouse.”

      iguess if youlive a shallow life that’s true. Not me all you seniors.
      LIfe is about helping people…volunteering….charitable work…giving
      forward….helping others…being a good person….loving family and
      friends….that’s what life is. The rest is decorations…i know…I’ve
      been there….but when i read this stuff from wislon that our lives
      are judged by our jobs…i want to puke.
      maybe those who feel that way need to go see their pastor/father/
      rabbi ……whatever and gete a new outlook on life.
      as rfor the jab at glaze…glaze does exactly what that guy on his
      deathbed said do…f***k more…and if we stopped scaring ourselves
      about 20 years down the road and focused on doing good now…
      we’d notv be writing these depressing/down and out stories!
      everyone can make a difference..
      but wislon….another ridiculous article with nothing new…nothing
      mentally inspiring…and i wonder what papers are running these
      stories ….the mayberry news…the Cameron times…..seriously wislon
      your jour alistic style needs some work.
      and why get you audience all depressed…your job is to bring them
      up and inspire them.
      Guys…do good while on earth…love your family…don’t harass or
      beat your wives or get down on the one thingin life that is great
      than anything…your family. You all will survive…this world is
      filled with energy and excitement….listening to wislon is such
      a downer.
      I’ve done motivational speaking for a few clients and call my
      presentation “HAPPY” because unlike what wislon wrote…you
      don’t have to be unhappy…its all about thanking god everyday
      for giving you the ability tochange lives and love others.
      mayvve wislon needs to go see that incredible young man who’
      s running resurrection. Don’t know his name buthear he is
      awe inspiring!!!!! Life is about attitude@
      And also…notice ole wislon got propositioned on kcc…haven
      t seen that since black Barbie wanted to take on glaze!!!!! hahahahah!

      • paulwilsonkc says:

        Harley, taking writing crticism from you is like Hearne making fun of me for living on a trust fun. Thanks, I appreciate it.
        That “that incredible young man who’ s running resurrection” is my pastor and friend. My wife is on the platform with him every Sunday night of the world. Thanks, again, but as usual, late to the party.
        The story line was written around what too many people do, didnt include me, but thanks just the same.
        And finally, I think I’ve made it pretty clear, the syndication agreement in the works is specifically for…. smaller market papers. I have no shame in that, its a great niche.
        I’ll take all the Nevada Missouri papers that want to come along, its just a bigger revenue stream.
        It strikes me odd, its really easy to sit in the shadows and claim all you claim with no proof of anything needed. Interesting position you have yourself in. Enjoy it. Im happy where I am, hope you are too.

      • paulwilsonkc says:

        One other thing, since we all know you dont really read for content, only to get to the mud slinging faster;

        “Is work your purpose in life? If so, I’d encourage you to find a more meaningful one. In today’s world, jobs are a fickle mistress that can change in an instant. If it’s the only place you find value you could wake up overnight feeling pretty vacant.”

        Its NOT where I find MY value. So thanks for all your condescending, yet irrelevant pointers. Again, I apprecaite it even when it doesnt apply, which it rarely does.

        Now, go study how well planes fly with no fuel.

      • admin says:

        Yeah, but I think some of those Black Barbie comments back then were, you know, manufactured, Mr. H.

    • paulwilsonkc says:

      Lib, its used in every talk Ive heard about aging and dying, no one gets to their death bed and wishes they spent more time at the office, or cleaned house one last time.
      I’m quite sure I won’t be retiring into nothingness. My desire is to spend it healthy, doing things that matter. We have an extensive work through my church, adopting a school each year, different one each year. I’d like to become a major part of that.
      And, regardless of Harley’s taunts, yes, I’m going to write…..
      Funny, I find it really hard taking writing criticism from a man who claims to have a J degree but is “too busy” to spell and write properly.
      Too busy….. let that sink in on you….
      “Im so busy, but feel so led to comment 100 times on each story, its OK if I look like a 3rd grader….even though I have a Journalism degree.”
      He either isn’t, doesn’t, or both.
      Thanks, however, for your kind words…

      • Libertarian says:

        “Scroll down” can be your friend.

        Always a treat to read you words of wit, Paul.

  12. mike t. says:

    all in all paul, this post certainly struck a nerve. nice job. have a Punch Gran Cru on me, eh?

    (in harley’s case, seems like several nerves were struck, but that doesn’t seem too hard to do.)

    • paulwilsonkc says:

      Thank you, Mike. 99% of the people here read for content. As for our friend, all he wants to do it get to the “Leave a Reply” box as fast as possible, so he can extoll his greatness and demean everyone else for who they are, because after all, we aren’t Harley. And if you aren’t Harley, in Harley’s world, you’re nothing.
      Sad existance, no matter how much he wants to talk about charity. He’s not terribly charitable to others.
      But thats fine, it gives us a laugh through the day and, if nothing else, sure makes you glad youre you and not him.

      • mike t. says:

        seems true enough.

        speaking of laughs, planes that can fly with no fuel and other trivialities, can’t wait for hearne to post the next set of radio station ratings. lol…

        • paulwilsonkc says:

          Ask and ye shall receive; go look at Country is King!

          • mike t. says:

            well dude chimed in, now all we have to do is wait for his harlness to weigh in on whether Hank Williams would do auto-tune.

      • hot harley says:

        yeah right ..lets compare records in life…
        lets see who’s been charitable…lets see who’s the real
        man..not just preaching abunch of b.s….acting like
        he’s better….lets lookat the real record!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
        real men don’t need to make excuses~!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
        hahahahha….
        I’d rather be me than a loser and the fact is that
        there are lots of losers on here.
        You are funny…a funny phony!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

        real men

  13. CG says:

    Well put Paul. I couldn’t have said it better. I’m with you. You have style and you have grace. You don’t need my OK.

  14. hot harley says:

    MY WAY OF FINDING MENTORS AND PEOPLE TO GIVE ME ADVICE
    ABOUT LIFE…RETIREMENT…BEING A GREAT PERSON…LOVING PEOPLE…

    THAT IS:
    I don’t take advice from people who are losers!
    I don’t take advice from people who are not “family” people…who basically
    can’t control their OWN PERSONAL LIFE IN A LEGAL AND
    SANE WAY” because if they can’t handle their own lives…why the f**k should
    I listen to what they say.
    I don’t listen to financial advice from hobos! In life…success may not be
    all based on personal accumulations…but if a guy lives like a slob…doesn’t
    present himself in the right way….doesn’t have a good track record…
    if they guy went busted in the past and never recovered…idon’t waste
    my time on him….because he’s not only a loser…but a quitter.

    I don’t listen to people nor find anything to take awayfrom what they
    say when they threaten others…stalk others…are jealous of those
    who have made it when they failed. Nothing wrong with failure…its part
    of doing things and taking chances. But if you don’t take the chance you
    can’t fail. But if you fail…be humble…don’t try to be someone you’re not…
    don’t lie….lies just keep rolling off these types of people lips!
    I don’t take advance from liars! Or haters! Their heart is so filled with
    hate that the compassion is gone forever. Cant change them…its just a matter
    of time before they revert back to their former ways. Haters never change.
    Abusers never change. NO cure for those
    ailments…its genetic and a built in flaw that will eventually surface again and again.
    That’s me. I follow this because I learned that there are good and bad
    peoplein the world. I surround myself with the best people I can find.
    That’s why I don’t listen to these make believe preachersor those with
    bullshit coming out of their ears who feel they
    need to correct the rest of us when their lives have been shambles!!!!!!!
    No…I’ve been lucky. from my father to my mentor in business who came
    from the sba SCORE program…I learned that once a loser…always a
    loser.
    and that the only one I listen to is my own soul and god in the end.
    many emails have come in to me talking about these naysayers…these jealous
    angry haters who have not only threatened but chased people like
    myself and glaze. They offer nothing but bullsh*t. In the end they
    never change…its part of their inner soul.

  15. snappietom says:

    Damn Harley, do you have anything to do with your life, except slam, Paul, Craig or HC?

    Get over yourself dude.

    • hot harley says:

      youdon’t read my comments…there have been many compliments
      of all these guys except whenthey write something that is wrong.
      Noone has put glazeon a pedestal than Harley….no one…I’ve defended
      his business..his personal life against the many attacks from guys
      like Wilson and the resto f the kcc haters. Read the most recent
      story about chris tucker for more info.
      hearne…well hearnes gotten lazy. He’s got talent but hes
      too lazy to use it. After havingto edit old man wislons stories
      I imagine he’s tired…but really..hearne says some of the dumbest
      things for a guy who’s been around the block like he is.
      good guy…but he can do better…maybe all that money has
      eclipsed his desire to do something great…who knows…still
      a cool guy but someone needs to keep him in shape.
      as far as wislon…he’sjust pure jealousy and bullsh*(t! no other
      way to describe it. He thinks he’s some perfect dude when he
      preaches like he does. EVen smartman lived a better life but
      smartman never tried to preach about anything to anyone how to
      live their life.
      We know hearne…we know glaze…weknow they are honest and
      almost never preach to anyone how they should live their life.
      WITH WISLON…WE GET A BIG HUGE PHONY TRYING TO MAKE
      PEOPLE BELIEVE HE’S SOMETHEING HE IS NOT.
      as far as Harley….I will debate/have a relevant conversation with
      anyone….based on facts…data…information with truereal world
      information. in return I get personal attacks…not one single
      piece of information or data or scientifically defined evidence has
      been used to prove me wrong. When I make a statement backed
      with stats/real world experiences or true life information no one on
      here comes back to debate me intelligently. Its the idiots on here
      who can’t back their statements up….
      Harley knows it….you attack the messenger…but not my message
      because you know Harley is right!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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