Like most of you I think almost daily about how much more I can do and accomplish in my life…
It never seems good enough, does it? All those dream we had as children that faded into life’s reality at age 30 or 40 or 50. Too often we think of what might have been. Trouble is, we don’t take the time to respect and examine what we’ve really done with our lives.
It was only yesterday, it seems, we were hoping to graduate from high school, have a girlfriend, be liked by others and leave our hometown for college and a life adventure.
Well, most of us did just that or something close, right?
I mean, had the Future Fairy told you at age 12 you’d own your own home, have a family, friends, good paying job, trips to exciting cities and enjoy ballgames, theatre – even pick up a few personal awards along the way – let alone just own a smoking hot, brand new car, wow, that would have sounded so COOL.
But that’s never enough, is it?
My gosh, had I been told at age 12, I was going to go away to Arizona, live in Los Angeles, be part of the film and TV industry, date and bed boatloads of beautiful women, become friends with worldwide, well-known celebrities and athletes, own one of America’s best known comedy clubs, a restaurant, be in the media – and oh yeah, write a book about myself, a good one – I wouldn’t have believed it.
Hey Craig, you will drive Porsches, Ferraris, and a Lotus. Damn, I would have been so excited I wouldn’t have been able to sleep.
Of course, there are bad things too; prison, family death, a broken marriage and many, many scary times.
Guess what? That kinda stuff happens to all of us in our own way, right?
I don’t mention me to try and sound cool, only as an example. Yet like most of you, it’s never enough, never good enough. In my case, if only my movie gets made and I becomes nationally known. Or the best one, I make enough money to be on easy street.
It just never ends.
We don’t know most of our readers here, obviously. I don’t anyway. But I have the feeling from the comments section that this mindset is in most of us. That we are the chosen few in the world. That we live in the greatest country ever, America. We are the top one percent earners or there abouts.
Sure, we have bills to pay but so do multi millionaires. We have our headaches and our heartaches, but so do Johnny Depp and Johnny Dare.
It’s the human condition. It’s never good enough.
We have trouble telling ourselves, "You did good, kid. In fact, you did great."
Few of us show much emotion – maybe it wasn’t shown enough to us as kids (or adults). I sure know that feeling and I bet many of you do as well.
We all think, "Boy, if I had it all to do over." Even though we did better than O.K.
I’m trying harder now to enjoy life and not worry so much about the future. Why? Because the future for me and many of you is NOW. We’ve lived better than half of our lives – maybe two thirds – and as we grow older we begin to lose much of what being young gave us. We become more and more limited. Even when things are going well you hear, "Yeah, well you’re old. What do you know?"
And hey, that starts in your 30’s.
I just looked out my window this morning and saw how nice a day it was. How nice our city can look. Even how nice people can be to one another at times.
No, I didn’t grow up to quarterback the Chiefs, win best actor in Hollywood, or be elected to Congress.
Maybe that’s just as well. I know many of those people and Lord knows they don’t seem very happy. My favorite line has always been, "I don’t know the answer to being happy, but I know if you live to try and please others you won’t be."
Hell, I think most of you have already won – you’re still here. And if read this site and comment sometimes, you must be fairly bright, so enjoy what you have – what the luck of the draw gave you.
It may be brief; it may be scary, exciting, boring but make it enjoyable. It’s your life. You and I have won, even if it ends sooner rather than later.
So just smile baby, smile.