As we reach middle age we often find that we have or take very little time for ourselves…
We’re always saving for our futures – but guess what – if you’re over 45, it’s already here! It’s time to enjoy life and your friends. Most of you have all worked hard and maybe raised a couple kids, now it’s your turn.
However, too many of us bought into the big lie. One of many, actually.
That when you grow up everything will be swell. You’ll be able to drive and own a car and won’t need your mom or the neighbor to give you a ride. You’ll get married, have a great job and kids and everything will be aces. Oh yeah, and you’ll have great and loyal friends – tons of ’em!
What we eventually learn is that life is not too fair.
That growing up and getting older is usually accompanied by all sorts of problems and headaches. Even for the chosen few who end up with some real bucks.
Marriage usually doesn’t work out for the long haul. Your kids drive you crazy and cost a fortune. And that great job? Even for those who spend most of their time in an office making a good living, it gets old, really old. And the job rewards are few in the end.
And too many of us find out just how little anybody cares when we get dumped or forced into retirement.
It’s goodbye Charlie, best of luck old chum. Did you see the Jack Nicholson film "About Schmidt?" For so many people, that’s a very true look at the end game.
Many of you readers are much younger, 25, 30 or maybe even just right at 40.
"That’s not me," you say. Think again – it’s most people – too many of us, in fact. We put off those great adventure plans until it’s too late or doesn’t matter much anymore. When you visit those far off Islands and beaches at 70 or 75, well, life has a way of taking the fun out of the trip. If you get my drift.
Sure, the food’s good and the hotels are very nice and the chicks on the beach are smoking hot. Trouble is at that age, much of the possible enjoyment has just passed us by. We can’t do the things we once did and we don’t look the way we did at 35 or 40.
Look, I am very aware that even those of us who have saved some decent money are not safe these days.
Hell, I have friends with seven figures saved up but there is no interest on their money so they worry about their futures. In many ways can’t blame them.
But what about TODAY?
I’ve asked all my pals to go on trips to some great places like Rio or Bali or maybe even the French Riviera. And their answer is usually, "Not now, maybe when my kids get outta college." Or, "Well, I’m going to do all that in a few years. There’s just too much going on with work and all." And of course, "Man, it’s just too much money for me right now."
Hey, that’s the only one that you can understand. However there are still cheap deals these days.
In the end, none of my KC pals will ever go anywhere major for adventure again.
Sure, there will be the lake, a trip up north to say Chicago. Maybe visit the kids in school or even go to L.A. or San Diego, if they have a relative there to stay with or a reason to be there. But just to go? Nah.
Me, I work hard. I know most of you think it’s all play for me but it’s not.
Sure I go to Vegas and LA often, but it’s both business and pleasure. Fortunately my career takes me to those two places. I’m lucky. Still I have a few places I always thought I’d see when I was younger. I’ve done the Caribbean a few times, even Jamaica. It’s been just for a minute though. So now is my final chance to do these places and have fun, like I would have 10 or 15 years ago. Hey it’s never a perfect time, right.
My pal Steve lives in Puerto Rico, on the other side of San Juan. I’ve been to San Juan, but not the more private sides and beaches. So the guy bugs me to visit him, there’s a five star hotel next to his condo and I figured, "What the hell?"
So I asked my main girl, Jessie, to go.
Barbie and I ended pretty quick on the second round – she’s fun but a headache.
Jessie was thrilled. She’s a great athlete and stays in crazy cool shape, so I’m lucky. We’ll see. Last time I went with a lady for an entire week it was with my ex wife Connie, and she was always wonderful.
And later I’m going to go to Rio, The French and Italian Riviera and visit my pal Warren in Bali. And maybe a few more just for fun jumps. Why not? Life is short and there aren’t that many rewards as we get older.
So I leave tomorrow for Puerto Rico.
I hope it’s a great trip with sun and rest. My advice to all of you is go do whatever it is you want to do before somebody hands you a "gold watch."
I don’t really know exactly what all works in life, but I do know what doesn’t -a quiet life of desperation.