I had a glorious summer- one of inner peace, reckless fun, and lotsa dating experiences…
The age group of the dudes ran the gamut from 33 to 60 (and no, it wasn’t Craig). Through my long, hard journey of men, I found that the strangest myth I knew did not hold truth. The myth that older men were wiser, more refined, and stronger emotionally than the younger crowd.
I have believed this my entire life. Even in high school I never went out with boys my own age.
I went out with college boys. So when the rest of my friends were going to Winstead’s on the weekend I was going to Steak and Ale. Back then, I think I had it right. Now I am not so sure…..
When a woman is at a certain age and of a certain independence and no longer wants children, we suddenly develop a certain power. We don’t really NEED you but we WANT you. It takes all the neediness out of the relationship and leaves all the romance in it.
I actually believe after dating a few older guys that this actually turned them off.
They wanted needy, desperate,"I’ll put up with anything" type girls.This gives them an advantage of having all of the control and I took that from them. It also came to light that these older men like to play games and lots of them. This was another way to try and manipulate women to a lower level.
The 60 year old actually was playing head games with me by text! BY TEXT! When did 60 year-olds learn how to text?
Another guy around 58 did the same thing. At this point I’m wondering why even bother with these 1980s throwbacks? Don’t get me wrong I actually fell pretty hard for an older guy, but it didn’t work out, so I was really giving it a good, college try.
So I asked some of my other girlfriends and they said they’ve experienced the same weird treatment. Most of the older men they dated were still having issues with ex-wives, and were extremely hung up about it as if they weren’t quite sure how to move on. One date gave me a self-help book on relationships and asked me to read it before we saw each other again.
That day never came.
I was mystified by this odd behavior. Whatever happened to having FUN? I’ll tell you where the FUN is and that is with younger guys! Guess what- they are honest, sweet, caring, never play games and like to have a really good time. They like to cuddle, snuggle, and play with my hair!
WHAT IS THIS? What have I been thinking my whole, entire life?
Forget the older guys- they have ISSUES – they are DAMAGED. And they really aren’t much fun. They take VIAGRA and CIALIS, for god’s sake. The younger guys are where it’s at.
Yes, I’m pulling what American men has been doing for decades- ditching the older for the younger!
HA, it goes both ways boys. If your 40 or older don’t come looking for me – I’ll be on Ashton’s couch watching a DVD.
Like the mesmerizing dance of light on water, the Mermaid’s wisdom is divine lunacy. What she knows, she knows from experience; wind tossed, salt-sprayed, supple, and visceral. She gains her knowledge from contact with life, from rolling in it, like a crashing wave. ….Plato